I haven't posted for quite some time, mostly because I don't really know what to blog about these days. This blog was somewhat intended to record the progress of of second adoption, but as long as we're just sitting and waiting for a referral, there's not a whole lot to report.
We are getting monthly updates from CAFAC and right now we're at 42 on the waiting list. There was only one referral last month and that went to a family behind us on the list....probably because they asked for a child older than everyone else on the list. I was telling someone about this the other day and they asked why the agency wouldn't ask us first if we'd like to adopt that child instead of giving that child to a family behind us on the list. I explained that it doesn't work that way. The agency has to stick within the age requested in the homestudy (which for us is under 3 years). They cannot propose a child over that age to us. Even if they would, the province would reject the referral before we even see it. I've explained some of these things over and over to some people and they just don't seem to get it. Some days I wonder why they even ask me to explain the process. They're not listening anyway, because they ask the same thing the next time I see them.
So, we've been at spot 42 for two months now. The previous month we were at spot 47. So, things are still moving, but very slowly. A few days ago we hit the 2.5 year mark since our dossier arrived in Ethiopia, and next month it will be 3 years since we began the process. Sigh... how much longer?
Someone else said to me the other day "So, there's no news on a little sister for Kumera is there? That's all thrown by the wayside, isn't it?" First of all no, there's no news. And secondly no, it has not been thrown by the wayside. If you're thinking that we're no longer adopting, that's untrue. We're still on the waiting list! It's taking long, yes, but we are still hopeful that it will happen. The only way it's not going to happen is if the program shuts down. We're not taking our names off the list or anything. This makes me wonder how many more people think that we're no longer adopting.
In other news, Kumera began his second year of preschool today. He was very excited to go.
All ready to go to preschool:
In front of his preschool, the Kiddie Sunsine Center:
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2 comments:
Oh, he is so adorable. People usually don't get it. To them it seems like we should be able to get a child at the blink of an eye. Lots of people assumed that we had also given up. It drove me crazy. Hang in there. There is a special someone out there for you guys. It's supposed to pick up once court is open. ?????
I AM WAITING WITH YOU!!!!! I think of you every day and the wait you are in. I think of the first time we met and we had just done our first home study meeting and were naively pumped and hopeful about the 2-6 month wait for sibs we were told about in the training (haha), and Wayne introduces himself with agony in his voice about waiting and waiting and still waiting.... And yes, Kumera is home and Paulos and Meski are home, but we wait with you for your little girl. And as often as you tell people who don't get what the wait is about, you are doing it for yourself and your little girl. Because no there is no news, and that makes it harder and harder every day and night. Remember to surround yourself by those who care and are not giving up. Life's a bit crazy getting into the kindergarten (and gr 5 and gr 2) routine but let me know what day would work for us to meet (is K in preschool every day? or do you have a morning we could meet at a park?). I love getting together with you and want you to know that we're waiting with you!! And that I look forward to the day I can help you do your daughter's hair!!
Ramona
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