5 days ago we hit the three year mark! I wasn't going to post about it because there's not much to say. But today I decided to post about it anyway, if for no other reason than to just acknowledge the fact it's been three years. Three years ago, when we applied for our second adoption, we thought that in three years we'd be very close to bringing our daughter home. Guess we were wrong. We're at #41 on the list and have been in this place since July. There have been very few referrals lately.
I think the wisest thing for us to do is stop trying to predict when it will happen. Some days I can do this, but other days it's just natural instinct to try to calculate by when it should "for sure" happen. One thing I should have learned by now is that there are no "for sure's" in adoption.
One thing I am thankful for is that we applied as soon as we did after our first adoption. At the time it felt too soon, only because we'd only been home with Kumera 6 months and he was only a year old. People around us thought too, it was too soon and asked how we would manage if we got another little one right away. But my head told me we needed to apply asap if we wanted another one, and that we needn't worry about having two kids so very young, because there was no way that would happen anyway. But people around us didn't believe me and said "Well, you never know... You'll probably end up with another baby before you know it, because now that you've adopted once, the second time will go much faster!" Wrongo! I try to explain that this "second-time-round going-faster" business only happens with CFS domestic adoptions, but they look at me like I don't know what I'm talking about. So, whatever. I know how it works. I guess time will tell how long it will take. Time already has shown it will not go faster the second time around.
So, in the meantime, I try not to think about it too much. I learned my lesson from the first time. I put all my energy into waiting to become a parent and it nearly killed me. Now I'm just thankful we have a child to enjoy.
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2 comments:
3 years, exhausting! I wish time could go faster to get our wee ones home, you think after doing this once we would be more patient, but it gets so darn hard.
This is just too long. I'm done whit you (and Rhonda) needing to be patient. I want to see who your little girl is and can't wait to see her playing with Kumera and my kids too! And no matter how hard you try to not let it get to you, waiting for a child sucks no matter is it's number 1, 2 or 4..... I too want her home with you.
Ramona
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